Happy Valentine's Day!

On this day people usually celebrate their relationships or crushes. I always did. But this year, I’d like to do something else. This year, I’d like to celebrate the love that I feel for me. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not going to spend the day as a narcissist. Rather, I’d like to remind myself today of the fact that I care about myself.

 Over the years, I’ve often given everything in relationships and kept nothing for myself. I’ve compromised over things I don’t want to compromise over. I’ve changed myself here and there because that was expected of me. But the truth is, I like myself just the way I am. I love that girl. So, why did I change again?

I have to be honest and thank all those people for their lessons. If it wasn’t for them I wouldn’t have learned everything I have learned. Like,

Be yourself no matter what.

Be proud of that person, love her/him.

If you are unhappy with yourself, change those aspects of yourself that bother you. But do it for you!

In every relationship it’s a two way ride, always.

Don’t do things you’re not comfortable with.

If someone can’t accept you, he/she is not for you.

Last but not least, a single life is not devoid of love.

One of my girlfriends tells me that my standards are too high, or I need to compromise, or I need to stop being picky because I’m never going to find someone this way. But I don’t want to find someone. I don’t think it works like that. Love is not finding someone and settling down with a mortgage and kids, is it? That’s what you could do if you wanted when you’re in love, right? But finding someone doesn’t guarantee love, does it? After all, who the heck is someone?? That could be anyone! Anyone could be everyone! She didn’t understand this. So I said, “I can’t force myself to fall in love with some guy. I’m not a robot, I can’t flip the switch. If love happens, it happens. If it doesn’t, it doesn’t.”



"Autumn breeze" by Nidhi Chanani

This year I’m single. But I’m not one of those singles who mops all day because they’re single today. No, Valentine’s Day is a day of love. So let’s celebrate love!  This year I celebrate the love I feel for myself. I celebrate the person I’ve become. I celebrate the fact that I have more loving friends and grew closer to those I already had. I celebrate my life, which is full of love! Not all kinds of love, but I have love in my life. Let’s enjoy that J

Now, I’m off to buy myself some heart-shaped chocolates…