My Desi Love Life: October 2011

Sunday, October 30, 2011

Introducing Saniya

Growing up in a desi culture, you’re made to believe many things about men and women which suddenly changes when you become an adult. As a child, you are told to respect your elders and not to question the decisions made for you about your life. Often, you are not encouraged to think for yourself neither to have a strong opinion. Especially if you are a girl.

Marriage is often the only goal in life for a girl and learning to please your future mother-in-law is basically your most important life’s lessons. Without a man, you will not be able to take care of yourself. Nor will society add any value to you as a single girl.

Enter me, Saniya. Too strong an opinion about anything, questions everything anyone says, likes to think for herself and take responsibility for her own actions. Marriage is not my goal in life, neither is pleasing my future mother-in-law. And I do believe a woman does not need a man to be a valuable asset to society.

But I do like the idea of love and marriage. I do like the idea of having a partner for life. So if I do find someone who is faithful to me, is willing to make his own chai in the morning and love and accept me for who I am, great! And if not.. maybe he will find me instead!

Introducing Meghna

I have a friend, who’s made it her life’s mission to find me a boyfriend. She really believes I need one and that without him my life is incomplete. Conveniently, she’s convinced she found my Prince Charming. Small problem is, I disagree.

I have a mother, who’s made it her life’s mission to find me a husband. She really believes I need one and without him I would be a helpless little girl.
(Un)fortunately, she hasn’t found a suitable boy just yet.

I am Meghna and I’ve made it my life’s mission to find love. I really believe in love. Always have and always will. I don’t believe I need a man to complete my life or to take care of me. I’d just like to swim through life’s river with someone rather than alone. I’m looking for someone to laugh with, cry with, to love and to fight. A soulmate.